It is disheartening when you share details with someone and that someone disregards or trivializes the details that were shared. For me, this has often been a test of whether that someone is really listening/paying attention. TOO often, disappointment follows when later conversations reveal that the someone was NOT listening. On this Mental Health Monday, before you “write that someone off” as someone who doesn’t care or who is just plain old selfish, ask yourself the following questions:
1. Did he/she really hear you?
2. Did they understand?
3. Were they preoccupied when you told them?
4. Is this a pattern with this person?
If “disregarding/trivializing” is a pattern for that someone, it may be time for you to STOP sharing information with that someone. Obviously, they don’t care or they don’t have a point of reference to sympathize with your emotions. Understanding who you can have conversations with during a critical time is crucial to your mental health. Remember, everyone needs someone who listens with open ears - never ignoring the details that are important to you, who responds with concern and an understanding heart, and who does a follow-up just to make sure that you’re okay.
On this Mental Health Monday, I pray that (going forward) this guides you in deciding who to share your cares, your concerns, your dreams and your painful dilemmas with! Remember, everybody is NOT listening and some people really don't care.
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