Wednesday, October 12, 2011

When Helping Others Is Hurting You

When Helping Others Is Hurting You

Learn to know when enough is enough. Our Lord and Savior expects us to help those in need. He even expects us to go that extra mile. But, when that extra mile hurts us and people that we love, it is time to say enough is enough. That does not mean that we have to stop helping altogether. It does mean that we might have to find an alternate way to help the one in need.

If loaning others money is taking bread out of your family’s mouth, maybe you need to do something else.

If spending time with other folk's children is causing you to neglect your own, it’s time to do something else.

If being there for everybody else is causing you to never be there for the one that you promised to love and cherish, maybe you need to do something else.

If being over-sensitive to the needs of others is hardening your heart against your own, it’s time to do something else.

Stop allowing others to borrow your money, steal your peace, consume your time, and zap your energy. Recognize when people are sucking the very life from you and from yours. It is only when you change your attitude and your actions will helping others stop hurting you.

Sometimes, you have got to teach a brother to fish instead of giving him a fish. Sometimes, you have got to empower people instead of enabling people. You can’t expect others to learn responsibility when you are always carrying their load!


  1. Amen!! Never work on someone elses life harder than they do!

  2. I have been helping others by opening my home and its never bothered me before. I have always enjoyed the extra company now it has become overwhelming and I feel God leading me to continue to help those that are displaced but from a different perspective. I truly appreciate your blog as it confirmed what I already knew. Sometimes we just need a word of confirmation to know we are hearing clearly from God.

    1. It never ceases to amaze me the way that God confirms HIS WORD! Glad to know that this post was confirmation for you! Thanks for stopping by, and continue to walk in HIS favor.


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