Understanding that other people are sometimes incapable of filling voids has been a major hurdle. I have recently come to grips with the fact that sometimes people mean well, but they just can’t do what we need them to do and they can’t be what we need them to be. For a very long time, I resented the fact that a dear friend was not the “knight in shining armor” that I thought she should be. I was angry because I picked her up when she was down, and she did not reciprocate the deed when I went through tough times. There were no calls of reassurance, and there was no ministering to rebuild my spirit. I was angry because I really needed a shoulder to lean on. I didn’t feel like being the strong one. I didn’t feel like being in control. Yes, I knew better. Yes, I knew that I should not succumb to my feelings. Yes, I knew that I should walk by faith and not by sight. I knew better!
But, this has taught me what I already knew (when it comes to others). Isn’t it funny how we have great advice for others- but none for ourselves? We should never expect any man/woman with flesh and blood to possess the qualities of Almighty God.
God is the only one
- who can truly pick me up when I am down,
- lift my heavy load,
- ease my troubled mind,
- heal my broken heart,
- make all things new, and then, turn around and do the same thing for you. Now, that is a friend!
I have learned that I was ever so wrong to be angry because a human failed to live up to expectations that only God can fill. There are certain voids that can only be filled by the miracle working, problem solving, mind regulating God. God wants our total dependence upon Him. Trust in HIM!
King James Version (KJV)
4 In God I will praise his word, in God I have put my trust; I will not fear what flesh can do unto me.