Monday, January 2, 2017

Haunting Questions and Unresolved Issues

Layers of unanswered questions that haunt the thoughts of even the most peaceful moments.  Constant echoes of :
  • Who?
  • What?
  • When?
  • Why?
  • How?

Echoes that bellow loudly in the midst of everyday, ordinary situations.  Frequent reminders that cannot be overlooked or disregarded.

There are times when there is no closure to occurrences that invaded our lives.  Sometimes, these occurrences become so frequent that they result in spiraling, out of control episodes of unfavorable events.
It is difficult to ignore anything that stares you in the face.  It stares at you with no regard to the emotional pain and torture that it inflicted.  It parades your territory as if it has done no wrong.  It works hard to prove to unknowing bystanders that it is innocent.

.... to be continued

Sunday, June 19, 2016

Happy Sunday!

A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee.

Psalm 91:7 (KJV)

Thursday, June 16, 2016

Try It !!! Thursday

Black Jamaican Castor Oil Conditioner

I finally got around to trying out the Black Jamaican Castor Oil Conditioner by Okay Pure Naturals. As with the other Coconut, Honey and Shea Conditioners, it is pleasantly scented.  The smell reminds me of a chewy, fruity Starburst taffy.  I purchased a 12 ounce bottle from TJ Maxx for $6.99.  Of the four Okay Pure Naturals I’ve tried so far, this one is my least favorite.
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Now, for the review:

I will rate each category with one to five stars - with five being the best.
  1. Availability (**)        I have only seen this conditioner at TJ Maxx.  I’ve checked CVS, Walgreens and Wal-Mart - to no avail.
  2. Consistency (****)    The Black Jamaican Castor Oil Conditioner has a medium thickness.  However, it did not seem to spread as easily as the others.  It did not give me the smoothness that I had grown accustomed to with the other conditioners.  There was something about it that seemed to not be as moisturizing as the others.
  3. Cost (****)    Compared to the others, the Black Jamaican Castor Oil Conditioner cost a dollar more at TJ Maxx - $6.99.  While this is, not at all, a bad price for 12 ounces, I would have been very disappointed if I had paid the online price of $10.00.
  4. Scent (*****)    Amazing!  It smells like Starburst, and it makes your hair smell great. Initially, I thought this would be a problem.  Sometimes, candy-like scents are very nauseating for me.
  5. Slip (**)    I was very disappointed in the amount of slip.  I expected the Black Jamaican Castor Oil Conditioner to provide equally as much slip as the Coconut, Honey, and Shea Conditioners. After all, it claims to have Black Jamaican Castor Oil as one of its ingredients.  

So, there you have it - my review of the Black Jamaican Castor Oil Conditioner.  If you would like to read my review of the Coconut, Honey, and Shea Conditioners, click here.

Saturday, June 11, 2016

Happy Sunday!!!

... and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

(Ecclesiastes 4:12)

When couples unite with God against the darts of the enemy, the gates of division cannot prevail!

Thursday, June 2, 2016

Try It !!! Thursday

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Initially, I picked up the Coconut Conditioner and the Shea Conditioner at a TJ Maxx while shopping in a nearby city.   After using them just once, I knew that I would be purchasing more!  It was hard to believe that these $5.99 conditioners performed so well.  When I went to my local TJ Maxx to purchase more of them, I was disappointed because they did not have a single bottle.  So, I immediately went online to  I was pleased to see that the website offered so many products - including several other conditioners!  I ordered the Honey Conditioner, the Coconut Conditioner, Aloe Oil and Glycerin.  I received the order in less than a week.  When I received it, I noticed that the Aloe Oil was not included.  Instead, I was sent Olive Oil.  I immediately notified Okay Pure Naturals, and customer service promised to send the Aloe Oil.  The company even allowed me to keep the Olive Oil as a gift  (awesome customer service)!!!  Within days, I received the Aloe Oil that I initially ordered.  A few days ago, I went into my local TJ Maxx and noticed that there were several bottles of the conditioners.  And, of course, I stocked up on more conditioners - including the Jamaican Black Castor Oil Conditioner!

Now, for the final review:

I will rate each category with one to five stars - with five being the best.

1. Availability    **    I have only seen this conditioner at TJ Maxx.  However, ordering online was a breeze. (If you have seen these conditioners somewhere else, please let me know in the comments.)

2. Consistency *****  The conditioners have a medium thickness.  They are thick enough to be used as deep conditioners.  Yet, they flow freely enough to be used as a co-wash.  (I do not like thick co-washes.)

3. Cost        ****    If purchased at TJ Maxx, they are $5.99 per 12 ounces.  However, at, they are priced at $9.00-$11.00 for a 12 ounce bottle - depending on the conditioner.  If the conditioners were priced at $5.99 on the website, I would have rated the cost at 5 stars.

4. Scent        *****    The scent is pleasant- somewhat fruity, tropical.  It is not overpowering.

5. Slip        *****    AMAZING!!!  I was actually able to finger detangle my hair.  My fingers gingerly glided through each conditioner coated strand.  To each’s own, I still use combs to detangle.

While NOT 100% natural, these conditioners are free of parabens and silicones.
Have you tried this line of conditioners? Let me know by commenting.

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Happy Wednesday!

They are not your friends

 until they have defended you in your absence.

- Unknown

I don't know who said this, but I sure do like it.  It sums up part of what I think a friend should be.  Think about it.  Have you ever had the opportunity to defend a friend?  Did you do it, or did you shy away from it - just to keep peace?

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Defining Relationships

Sometimes, the relationship that we want with others is not the relationship that they want with us.

Have you ever considered a person as a friend that did not consider you a friend? Perhaps, the person called you a friend, but treated you like an acquaintance.  That has happened to me before with a coworker.  

Before I continue, I need to tell you that I don’t readily refer to people as friends.  In my opinion, I believe that the term friend is used way too loosely.  For me, friend is a term that signifies a caring, giving, sharing and trusting relationship.  With that being said, I’ll continue with this post.

I once worked with a lady - I’ll refer to her as Lacey (not her real name).  Lacey and I started working at the job the same time.  Lacey and I are Christians.  We are both married to Christian men , and we attend church regularly.  One of our children is the same age, and they attend the same school.  Lacey and I are around the same age.  So, quite naturally, I thought we would be good friends.  We shared and talked about things very often.  We even exchanged prayer requests.  I’m somewhat of a loner.  But, I really thought that this friendship was going to be special.  I was excited because we could relate to each other.

I noticed that when we had professional development away from our campus,  Lacey would almost always have lunch with another coworker (we’ll call her Terri).  Yes, I thought this was strange.  However, I rationalized that Lacey and Terri may have known each other longer.  Then, Lacey was off work due to an illness.  I took her dinner, but not to her house.  Her husband met me at the store to pick up the dinner  (hmm).  I was really hurt by this.  I had insisted that it was no problem for me to take the meal to her house.  But, she insisted that her husband would meet me to pick up the meal.  You get the picture, I’m sure.  I could go on listing other examples, but this post is getting long.

Lacey, later, moved to a different job.  The problem, in this situation, is that I considered Lacey more of a friend than she considered me.  As a matter of fact, I think she only considered us to be coworkers.  Neither of us ever defined the relationship.  This led to an assumption on my part.

I mentioned Lacey and me because too many people form one-sided relationships. Too often,
  • We care about people that don’t even know we exist.
  • We help people who never lend us a helping hand.
  • We love people that hate us.
  • We become friends with people who backstab us.
  • We talk to people who don’t listen.
  • We marry people who take us for granted.

So, how do we not form assumptions about the type of relationship that we share with others?  First of all, the relationship MUST be defined. All of the actions defined Lacey’s relationship with me.  Secondly, we must NOT ignore the obvious.

If we do this, we will save our emotions from disappointment and despair that could very easily be avoided.

Has this ever happened to you?  How did you handle it?