Just Tell It!

Just because good sound advice and counsel did not work for you does not mean that it will not work for someone else. If the advice is Godly, share it with someone else that may be struggling in the same area that you are struggling. The very thing that you have to share may be the very thing that someone else needs to hear. Someone needs to hear your testimony.

• Someone needs to take your advice.
• Someone needs to hear your story.
• Don't hesitate - tell it!

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly....(Psalm 1:1)

Friend Or Foe?

I don't understand how someone who calls himself/herself a friend can withhold pertinent information that could possibly harm you or embarass you.

I don't understand how a true friend could know that "someone else" does not like you, and at the same time allow you to laugh and grin with that "someone else".

True friends cover you and protect you. They know how to hide your flaws - not expose them. True friends monitor you when you are going through - they don't abandon you.

It hurts me deeply when I discover that a "friend" has not been the friend to me that I have been to him/her.

Are these people friends or foes? Weigh in!

Proverbs 18:24
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

An Aah- ha Moment

You can not force, manipulate, or pressure others into accepting you, appreciating you or loving you. YOU must accept YOU. YOU must appreciate YOU. YOU must love YOU. Be who God created you to be!


Psalm 139:14

I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

Reality Check!

Sometimes reality stares us in the face in a way that we can't ignore. Reality is a reflection of who we really are which includes our strengths, our weaknesses, our successes and even our failures. When reality stares us in the face, it doesn't matter how much we try to ignore it, we can't. Reality is painful. It is what it is.

Sometimes, reality forces us to take a look at ourselves and see
- just how stupid we are,
- just how insignificant we are,
- just how vulnerable we are,
- just how much of a victim we are,
- just how pathetic we are,
- just how out of control we are,
- just how desperate we are,
- just what a fool we are. For what? Is it worth it?

Stop Being A Victim !

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to continue biting the inside of your jaw - in the very same place? Have you ever wondered why you bit your jaw this afternoon in the same place that you bit your jaw this morning? Why does that seem to always happen? The next time you accidentally bite the inside of your jaw, notice how that part of your jaw seems to poke out. The bitten area seems to stand out- waiting to be bitten again and again. Ouch!

There are times in life when we are victims of some misfortune or malady. When we become a victim of a situation, we become weak in that area of our life. As a result, we have no defense in that area and the same thing keeps happening over and over again. We can’t seem to figure out how or why the same stuff keeps happening. We want it to stop, but we don’t know how to make it stop. We don’t know how to regain control.

3 Steps To Stop Being A Victim

1) Recognize that you and only you can take charge of you.

2) Heal the initial wound. Fix the first situation. Too often, we try to build a
new house on a broken foundation. If the foundation is cracked, you will spend time repairing when you could be spending time polishing and enhancing. Broken foundations can only be repaired from the bottom up - not the top down.

3) Build a wall of protection. It is hard for the enemy to enter a mighty fortress.

Encourage Yourself!

Sometimes, you have to encourage yourself!

On a certain occasion in the Old Testament, David and his men returned to their camp. When they returned, they discovered that the enemy had invaded the city and captured their wives, sons, and daughters. After David and his men had a pity party, David realized that his own men planned to kill him and David encouraged himself.

It was only when David encouraged himself that he had a conversation with God. God gave him permission to go into the enemy's camp and take back everything that the enemy had stolen.

There are times, in life, when we have to encourage ourselves. When others turn their back on you, encourage yourself! When it seems as if the whole world is against you, encourage yourself!


but David encouraged himself in the LORD his God.
(I Samuel 30:6)

My Soul Cries Out!

There are times when we resolve that we are not going to "cry over spilled milk". We know that there is nothing we can do about what happened or what did not happen in the past. No amount of human effort can change it or erase it. Regardless to how hard we try or how resourceful we become, we can't ease the pain nor can we ease the frustration. It doesn't matter how hard we try, our own human abilities just CAN NOT do it.

Even when we resolve that
"it" is over,
"it" is in the past,
"it" didn't happen or

"it" won't happen, there are those days when we awaken and a part of our soul cries out in agony. Tears of despair seem to drown us as we gasp in desparation for hope and just enough strength to make it through one more day. At times, the cry is so loud that it almost overtakes us. The cry is overwhelming. No one else seems to hear our cry. How can they not hear the cry when the sound abates with every tick of the clock? My soul cries out!

What is this cry that plays and replays like a broken record? What is "it'? "It' is the dream that turned into a nightmare. "It" is the pregnancy that never happened. "It" is the shame and degradation that never seems to go away. "It" is the guilt from the past that forever haunts your present. "It" is the anger that won't go away. "It" is the disrespect that you continue to face. "It" is the marriage that failed and the relationship that turned sour. "It" is that one desire that won't happen because you are too old or your body is too broken down.

Everybody has or has had an "it" that often cries out louder than any emergency siren. No one can erase or outrun "it". The challenge is to hear "it" and face "it". How can a cry that shatters our soul not be heard by anyone else? My soul cries out!

What will I do when my soul cries out? How will I face this challenge? How will I deal with "it" before "it deals with me? That is the challenge- to say the right thing when the wrong thing sits at the tip of my tongue. The challenge is to do what is right even when you don't want to do it. The challenge is to know that you can overcome and that, in spite of what you are going through, you will overcome!